Life Long Love

Given the staggering divorce rates, one of the best things you can do to help save your marriage before it starts is premarital counseling. According to Psychology Today, studies suggest that couples that choose to receive counseling have lower divorce rates than those that do not.  The SYMBIS ( Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) program is an amazing tool to help you and your future spouse make sense of things like: Marriage Momentum, Personality Dynamics, Money Styles, Caution Flags, Family of Origin and how that affects your view of marriage and much more.  Utilizing an in-depth marriage assessment tool, you will discover your marriage styles, and what strengths you each bring into your union.  You will discover how you both handle stress and what tools you might be able to implement early on to reduce conflict.  If you would like to Save Your Marriage Before It Starts request a complimentary 15 minute session with a certified Soul Care SYMBIS facilitator to  see how this fantastic program can benefit your marriage today.

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Healing Family Trauma

“With new discoveries in epigenetics now making headlines, many of us are asking an important question: What are my children really inheriting? Can my baggage, the unfinished business I don’t deal with, pass on to my kids? Without knowing it, could I be hurting them?”–Mark Wolynn

If you have asked yourself these questions,there is an answer!  Check out Mark’s article on his blog here, then come back and schedule a free 30 minute consultation and lets visit about how Soul Care can help in healing family trauma.  Step into 2017 whole and living intentionally.

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Give The Gift Of A Healthy Soul

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It is that time of year where we are looking for the perfect gift that says “I love you, you matter” in a special unique way.  What better gift to give than the opportunity for someone you love to experience a vibrant soul-healthy New Year?! Gift Certificates make great stocking stuffers!  Show someone, or yourself, how much you care this year. Give the gift of “presence”

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Follow This Link:  GIFT CERTIFICATE to go to the secure PAYPAL  site and specify the amount of your certificate.  (Standard Sessions are 25.00/hour) An email confirmation with your E-Certificate will follow.

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Soul Care Minute

Here is the transcript from this week’s Soul Care Minute. You can hear them at the podcast:  www.oilpress.podbean.com As we face the elections tomorrow, i felt this was appropriate to share, as it is on choice-the power and the consequence of this great human freedom!

Tomorrow we as individuals, and collectively as a nation will head to the polls to cast our vote for the candidates we feel best represent our own moral compass.  We will pause in the ballot boxes across the nation and will exercise choice.  We will practice a process that people in our history have died for, in order to gain the right of participation in. 

By definition according to Webster’s, election is:   a formal and organized process of electing or being elected, especially of members of a political body. However, it has a second meaning that I would like to highlight today:  The act or an instance of choosing.

Choice can be a terrible, wonderful thing.  Terrible in that we have all at one time or another experienced the paralyzing, ostracizing moment of being “un-chosen.”  From those agonizing lineups in school where the “captains” picked their teams and with each name called you stood there with your heart beating hoping you wouldn’t be the last one standing, to the day your friends, loves, or even children move on to other friends, lovers, or life leaving you reeling and momentarily dis-oriented.  Choice in our culture has become a multi- million dollar entertainer.   Thousands of viewers  tune in each week to reality T.V. anticipating from their own unique emotional experience with choice, who will survive to become spouse, dancer, apprentice, singer? 

Choice is also an amazing, liberating and wonderful gift.   Those lucid, grace filled moments that offer us the option to choose life, choose to love, and choose to pursue peace in chaotic situations where we have allowed destructive cycles to run rough shod over our soul.   Choice challenges us with questions.   Provokes a response when we are confronted with the option to despair, to quit, to give up hope?  Do you know dear listener, that you DO have options?  There is a way that leads to life,  that leads up out of the darkness you are in, there is room for you and space for your dreams in this world?  Lift up your head.  Look around you.  See the resources available to you.  Make a decision today, that you have value.  That you have purpose. That wholeness is possible, joy is possible, love is possible, laughter is possible, feeling….is possible.

A man who survived horrendous horrors in Nazi Germany concentration camps, Victor Frankl, credits the power of choice with his ability to handle the mental, and physical terror he experienced.  He says:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.  “ 

Another famous Doctor, Doctor Seuss put it this way:

You have brains in your head, and feet in your shoes, you can steer yourself in any direction you choose-

Doctor Seuss’s first book was rejected over 27 times. Feeling the sting of being “un-chosen” he made a decision to walk down Madison Avenue.  As he was heading home to burn his book  a chance encounter with an old friend, who had just become editor of children’s book at Vanguard publishing, happened resulting in the publishing of   “Mulberry Street” and the launching of  Dr. Seuss’s career. His career  would see over 600 million books published and translated into over 20 languages.  Dr. Seuss says of that day, that if he had chosen to walk down the other side of Madison Ave he would be in the dry cleaning business today.

Life is wonderful friend, waiting to surprise you with options that lead to success, satisfaction,  hope- look for them.   Care enough to believe you can make a difference-Don’t give up.

Thanks for the pause.  Thanks for taking a moment to reflect with me about the power of choice.  Exercise that great human freedom you have today, and choose to care. In the words of our good friend Dr. Seuss:  “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing’s going to get better, it’s not. “

Real Conversation

“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.”
Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life

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Soul At Rest

Post-3-Find-Rest-My-Soul.jpgThe soul seeks God with its whole being. Because it is desperate to be whole, the soul is God-smitten and God-crazy and God-obsessed. My mind may be obsessed with idols; my will may be enslaved to habits; my body may be consumed with appetites. But my soul will never find rest until it rests in God.”
John Ortberg, Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You

For Everything A Season

I love that about our God!  He created a world that He engages in that is cyclical, moving in the rhythms of birth, growth, death, resurrection.  As we enter the fall season I am reminded of the ways in which we each experience death seasons. Times when life seems to be stalling, or stagnant.  Hidden behind a blanket of soul frost.  Yet, as nature points us we know that the seed that is entrusted in the hands of the Father is never wasted.  It may be dormant, but it is in process.  Do you ever feel that way?  Dormant…but in process?

This season of soul care sessions have been amazing in the freedom and the expression that people are finding in what has been to them only frozen ground.  If you are experiencing a time of seeming fruitlessness…breathe.  Steady your anxiousness and remember, their is promise in the hiddenness and beauty in the waiting.

Ecclesiastes 3 :  There is a season (a time appointed) for everything and a time for every delight and event or purpose under heaven—